What are some practical ways of dealing with my pre-teenage son's newly developed ';attitude';?

My son is in middle school and has suddenly developed an ';I know better than anyone else'; attitude about everything...constantly arguing. He also has a trigger temper that he never used to. What are some practical ways of getting him to sit and talk rationally without exploding everytime we correct him?What are some practical ways of dealing with my pre-teenage son's newly developed ';attitude';?
Most and formost.......';Stand your Ground'; if it was not acceptable 2 yrs. ago it is still not acceptable. They test us and their boundaries at this time in thier lives....it's nature working twords them becoming independent adults but...it is a very difficult time to be a parent. Always find and insist on some good quality one on one time too...they tend to spend alot of time away from their parents at this age too...and when they come back they bring the attitude. They will try to resist the one on one time...but once you stick to it they are glad for it.What are some practical ways of dealing with my pre-teenage son's newly developed ';attitude';?
I somehow lived through raising five through their teenage years. My youngest is almost 21.


You might start with not correcting him. Ask him about the item that you think needs correction. He will fall into his own trap if he has not thought this out. If he has (and is not just going with the flow) then you just might get an education as well.


If he blows up, keep your cool. Ask him how mature was that expression or act.
I have a 14 year-old and what i've found is that when she developed this attitude, I would sit and talk with with her one time and one time only , and then allowed her to learn on her own. They're at a really different age , and this allows him to come to you when he wants the advice.
Be open and honest about how you feel and just give it some time it will go away after a while and try not to force talking on to him but talk when he wants too.